8 steps to follow, when creating a new you.

It was the first time, and it wouldn’t be the last. The first time I decided, that being loved and respected isn’t something we get by dissimulating, but rather by portraying who we truly are. It was the first time I invented a new me, since the me before was merely a reflection of other’s exceptions. Well, and of course it wasn’t the last time that I reformed myself – we all change with experience.

1. Where do you see yourself in you dreams?

This is the question you need to ask yourself when starting this journey. This might as well be the hardest point of them all.

As the sun knows; even the sky is not the limit…

― Rasheed Ogunlaru

Realizing where you want to stand and where you picture yourself in the future, is something really intimate and deep – and nobody can disencumber you from these realizations. If you want to be seen in a certain way by others, you might have to change some of your actions. People will limit you to the things you have confidence in. If you now want to be appreciated for something different, you will have to build confidence in that specific field to make them realize it.

2. Make a plan!

Before the Plan, there is an Idea. Before the Idea, there is a Purpose. Before the Purpose, there is Your Spirit…aching to express Itself

― Paresh Shah

So you now have your spirit and a goal. To achieve the change you intend, you will need a plan to make it work. Organisation is the core part of success. So you will need to research what is best to be done in your case. Whatever you do, live it with faith in yourself. People make mistakes – it’s human nature. So take other’s oppositions as an incentive and other’s encouragement as a reward.

3. Dress according to your personality and preferences

What I realized when I created the person I am now, is that you need clothes that fit your character. And when you choose, don’t pick according to what is modern and accepted, but rather by what you like and what you feel good in. If that is colorful or black, baggy or tight. Just dresses and skirts or only jeans and t-shirt. Wear what you feel comfortable in, and not what other’s may like for you to wear. Just a fitting outer appearance can give you so much confidence!

4. Don’t forget about a healthy lifestyle

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“Healthy” here can be interpreted in diverse ways. Healthy should be your comfort-zone. If that is no sport or an enormous amount of sport. A balanced diet, a vegan or a “I’ll grab whatever is in the fridge” kind of lifestyle. You have to like the way you live. You will want to create habits, that go well with your personality. Just remember that some changes don’t happen in you comfort-zone.

5. Ask friends about their opinion

When you find yourself surrounded by sane people excited about your idea and lending support, you realize, perhaps, you are not as crazy as you think you are

― Paresh Shah

Your friends and family are your support. They will be there when you rise, as well as when you fall. Make sure to not keep everything to yourself. Some decisions are hard to make. Having people around that love you just for who you are, is a blessing.

6. Have self-confidence

So many people will tell you ”no”, and you need to find something you believe in so hard that you just smile and tell them ”watch me”. Learn to take rejection as motivation to prove people wrong. Be unstoppable. Refuse to give up, no matter what. It’s the best skill you can ever learn.

― Charlotte Eriksson

If you’ve made a decision to do something – stick with it! Hold your head up high and face your critics head-on. Everyone that doesn’t like the “true” you, might have been a false friend all along.

7. Look back

Sometimes, to get motivated you need to look back and appreciate the way you have come. Nothing is better than realizing the big steps and the gigantic challenges you’ve mastered during this journey. Don’t ever give up and keep working hard, just as you have done in the past.

Remember how far you’ve come, and you won’t have to rely on a destiny for your future. It will come on your own.

― Shannon A. Thompson,

8. Strive for your goals

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When one has followed one specific goal for a very long time, it usually is weird to suddenly reach it. Don’t be afraid of the goal! If you think you have then lost your purpose – quest for a new one. This isn’t the first change! You continue changing all you life! So simply enjoy it as the beautiful human being you are!

 

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10 ways in which singing will benefit you

Singing is something beautiful. Especially when someone with a wonderful voice does it. But even if you are an individual with next to none singing talent (like me) you might still conciser singing more!

1. DANGER! Singing might cause chronic happiness

Singing releases endorphins, hormones that are set free within the brain and tell it to “feel good”.  Trough doing that, singing increases the feeling of wellbeing, enhances mood and produces positive thoughts.

It also helps with stress reduction and can cure snoring which will make your partner really happy.

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2. It will improve you health

Singing has many physical and mental benefits. It stretches and helps control the muscles of the lungs which results in healthier breathing. It is said that it also improves sleep. Furthermore it tones the face muscles that are usually not in use.

Singing functions as an antidepressant and helps reduce anger and anxiety. People that have a severe illness find their inner balance trough singing and get an energy boost to continue fighting.

3. You can get your feelings out there

Singing can help you say the feelings, that you keep hidden inside your heart, out aloud. If you are lonely, angry, sad, in love, heartbroken or hopeless, somebody has most likely written a song about it. When singing that song you can then utter these feelings or actually realize them. Sometimes it is hard to say what you truly feel. Singing might take some weight of your shoulders.

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4. You become part of a community

Singing opens the way into a new community. If you join a choir or a band you will realize how rewarding it is to sing in a group. Doing the same thing, producing a wonderful sound as one voice that is able to fill an entire hall and just having the same passion, will give you a hobby that will have a positive effect on the way you look at life.

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5. It will make your memory better

Memorizing lyrics and melodies trains your brain. Memorizing things trough singing them is also really effective since a melody has better grip in your mind.

6. It gives you a better control over your voice

Do you get scared of delivering a speech in front of a crowd because your voice then does funny things like disappear or slip off to a really high pitch? Well, then you might want to consider training your voice trough singing since that strengthens the vocal chords.

7. It makes you more confident (posture)

Standing in front of a crowd, in a group or alone, does wonders to your confidence.

To sing properly you also need to learn the singing posture which will ultimately result in you walking around in it all day, making you seem more confident and self-assured.

8. You are tricked into exercising

I get this a lot when I am not motivated to exercise at all and just lay around in bed. I turn on the music and eventually start singing along. Not after too long im dancing around in my room and play the air guitar while headbanging like crazy. In the end I’m super energetic and have so much motivation that I even go exercise afterwards. Crazy, tricky singing!

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9. It increases the empathy and understanding between cultures

Music and singing bring people together and are some kind of universal language. That’s why you should definitely bring along some music when traveling!

10. Party would be boring without it

If you go out to party and don’t sing along with the music, it’s going to be boring! Trust me!

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Please tell me what you think about this list and whether you have any experience with singing and its positive effects.