8 steps to follow, when creating a new you.

It was the first time, and it wouldn’t be the last. The first time I decided, that being loved and respected isn’t something we get by dissimulating, but rather by portraying who we truly are. It was the first time I invented a new me, since the me before was merely a reflection of other’s exceptions. Well, and of course it wasn’t the last time that I reformed myself – we all change with experience.

1. Where do you see yourself in you dreams?

This is the question you need to ask yourself when starting this journey. This might as well be the hardest point of them all.

As the sun knows; even the sky is not the limit…

― Rasheed Ogunlaru

Realizing where you want to stand and where you picture yourself in the future, is something really intimate and deep – and nobody can disencumber you from these realizations. If you want to be seen in a certain way by others, you might have to change some of your actions. People will limit you to the things you have confidence in. If you now want to be appreciated for something different, you will have to build confidence in that specific field to make them realize it.

2. Make a plan!

Before the Plan, there is an Idea. Before the Idea, there is a Purpose. Before the Purpose, there is Your Spirit…aching to express Itself

― Paresh Shah

So you now have your spirit and a goal. To achieve the change you intend, you will need a plan to make it work. Organisation is the core part of success. So you will need to research what is best to be done in your case. Whatever you do, live it with faith in yourself. People make mistakes – it’s human nature. So take other’s oppositions as an incentive and other’s encouragement as a reward.

3. Dress according to your personality and preferences

What I realized when I created the person I am now, is that you need clothes that fit your character. And when you choose, don’t pick according to what is modern and accepted, but rather by what you like and what you feel good in. If that is colorful or black, baggy or tight. Just dresses and skirts or only jeans and t-shirt. Wear what you feel comfortable in, and not what other’s may like for you to wear. Just a fitting outer appearance can give you so much confidence!

4. Don’t forget about a healthy lifestyle

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“Healthy” here can be interpreted in diverse ways. Healthy should be your comfort-zone. If that is no sport or an enormous amount of sport. A balanced diet, a vegan or a “I’ll grab whatever is in the fridge” kind of lifestyle. You have to like the way you live. You will want to create habits, that go well with your personality. Just remember that some changes don’t happen in you comfort-zone.

5. Ask friends about their opinion

When you find yourself surrounded by sane people excited about your idea and lending support, you realize, perhaps, you are not as crazy as you think you are

― Paresh Shah

Your friends and family are your support. They will be there when you rise, as well as when you fall. Make sure to not keep everything to yourself. Some decisions are hard to make. Having people around that love you just for who you are, is a blessing.

6. Have self-confidence

So many people will tell you ”no”, and you need to find something you believe in so hard that you just smile and tell them ”watch me”. Learn to take rejection as motivation to prove people wrong. Be unstoppable. Refuse to give up, no matter what. It’s the best skill you can ever learn.

― Charlotte Eriksson

If you’ve made a decision to do something – stick with it! Hold your head up high and face your critics head-on. Everyone that doesn’t like the “true” you, might have been a false friend all along.

7. Look back

Sometimes, to get motivated you need to look back and appreciate the way you have come. Nothing is better than realizing the big steps and the gigantic challenges you’ve mastered during this journey. Don’t ever give up and keep working hard, just as you have done in the past.

Remember how far you’ve come, and you won’t have to rely on a destiny for your future. It will come on your own.

― Shannon A. Thompson,

8. Strive for your goals

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When one has followed one specific goal for a very long time, it usually is weird to suddenly reach it. Don’t be afraid of the goal! If you think you have then lost your purpose – quest for a new one. This isn’t the first change! You continue changing all you life! So simply enjoy it as the beautiful human being you are!